Imagine this scenario, which will be easier for most parents, where your kid lets you know a week ahead about a sleepover they want to go to. Lately, your kid has been good and has even promised not to ask for a two-week allowance if they are allowed to go to the sleepover. It would be a shame if you said no, but you have not allowed your kids overnight trips before. Sure, you are on a first-name-basis with the parents, but you know nothing about them. Take a deep breath, and this article is going to tell you how to handle the scenario with the grace of a well-prepared parent.
Have The ‘Talk’ With the Kid
The ‘talk’ is something that your child should be familiar with hopefully by this age, but if not then here are all the points that you want to mention during the curfew talk:
*The Dangers of Strangers
You need to instill the fear of stranger danger to your children, no matter their age. Make sure to clarify that it isn’t the mother or father of your best friend that you’re talking about, but the people that you both are not acquainted with. The talk about bad touch will be up to you.
*Things that bump in the night
The last thing that you want is for your children to fear the dark, but they do need to be more aware of their surroundings especially at night. It’s not about teaching your child to be paranoid, but being aware is the key issue here.
Have The ‘Talk’ With the Parent
Talking with the parents of your child’s friend is very important, a face to face encounter or over the phone for that matter. You need to talk about:
*An About Me
While it is important to discuss a bit about yourself in detail, you have to remember that this is not just about you. This is an ice-breaker or something to start the conversation with the parent who will be watching over your child. You need to keep your ears perked up for any inconsistencies. It is never too late to cancel any plans, if you are not comfortable.
*An About My Child
If you are thinking of letting your child go with them, you must tell the parents of your child’s details – attitude, style, manners, and the most important thing, medical conditions.
Check Only Once
One of the hardest thing for a parent to do is sit back and wonder how that first overnight trip will work out. Try to keep yourself distracted with anything as this will be a good time to do some hobby, self-improvement crafts, other work or just catching on your favorite shows. Let’s say that the silence gets too bad or you miss your kid as you check his or her empty bed. You can always call the parents for some updates, but don’t smother them, though. Maybe before you call, it would be best to make a list of things that want to ask the parents of your child’s friend. Be calm and show that you trust them to avoid any misunderstood talks.
A bit of parental advice; take an interest in the sleepover. It is not hovering, but it shows that you care about the life of your kid and trust me, your child will always remember the small stuff. They will feel that you want them to have fun and still, you love them a lot because you are checking up on them.