Curfew and Age
If you think there’s a particular time to start enforcing a curfew and that curfews are only good for kids age 9 and above, then, you could be wrong. This article will help no matter what age your “cubs” are. For each age group, there are different factors to consider and different approaches to take and we will do our best to touch on them all.
Age 8 through 12
Now, if you are going to try to explain the concept of curfew to kids ages eight through twelve, there are a few things that you should know. Your child might be a little too young for the gory details that are involved, so no mention of rapists and drunkards. Just try to tell them subtly. Perhaps you can call them ‘evil strangers,’ something that kids will understand and be able to follow as you go along with the details regarding the importance of curfew. It is okay to instill caution towards strangers in the heart of younger children because need to know how to interact with strangers – and that is less interaction, the better. It is best to use these age gaps as a milestone when you discuss curfew to your kid, but note that the later you talk to them, the less efficient the discussion will be and the more meaningless it is talking to your child about curfew becomes.
So to sum it all up:
*Avoid the gore but not the horror
*Strangers are just sick people, no details
*Strongest time to give curfew speech
Age 13 through 15
Explaining the same thing to thirteen to fifteen-year-old’s is surprisingly the same, but the key thing here is that these kids are in their puberty stage. Your child, at this point, is not your usual buddy or best friend. He is quite distant from you at this stage and you will sometimes feel like a bad parent for not being able to connect with him. With that said, discuss some of the darker aspects of the dangers of not following curfews, keeping in mind that phrasing is important. Your child is most likely curious about sex, and the last thing that you want to add is a curiosity for strangers. A good topic to mention is the prevailing rate of STD’s, but you should use multiple sources to show that it is not just you saying this. It would amaze you how smart your child really is when talking about these topics. Strangers are still dangerous, and it is not an entirely a bad time to introduce the concept of curfew since they might start having a reason to leave the house.
Here is the wrap up:
*Careful bits of gore, but with evidence
*Strangers are just sick people, evidence
*Decent time to give curfew speech, very good time for review
Age 16 through 19
The time for this speech is getting weaker, but it is all the more important depending on your situation. For some parents, this is both the age where their kid starts to get a job and maybe starts getting out at night. There is no reason at all to spare the punches because you never know when you are going to wake up and lose your child to a stranger. Age sixteen through nineteen is also the time when there is a lot of diversity factoring in your parenting that will determine how close your child is to you. Nevertheless, the time to mention everything has come. Remember the more honest you are with them, the more your kid learns to return that honesty and respect to you. This is also the time when the curfew speech is the weakest, but it is still important to enforce it, especially when you notice that your kid is beginning to like someone and is curious about going out with them on a date. You may have given them a background of how curfews work when they were younger, so this speech at this stage would just serve as a reminder to them.
*All the gore and evidence you can manage
*No more pulling punches on strangers
*Variable time to give this speech